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Noah, readers one and all, please forgive me for the length and the emotional content of the following comment. I am genuinely upset about the events of the recent past. To give you my background, I am 73 years of age. I have a degree in law and have practiced law since 1980. I was an administrative law judge for 27 years. I have a master’s degree in public administration, worked as a management analyst after getting that degree in local government before law school, and have a bachelor’s degree in political science with an emphasis in political philosophy. I have dedicated my life to serving my country and have served faithfully and well for many years. I am a conservative Republican. Sick to death of what I have watched for 25 years, on Friday I emailed Speaker Nancy Pelosi and asked her to impeach President Donald Trump.

Hopefully, the events of the last few days and weeks have been a wake-up call for the country. We are a country drunk and staggering on the intoxicant of hate filled speech, exaggerations, and outright lies. If one is not yet sick and hung over from this diet of abuse, then there is still too much of the lethal intoxicant left in the blood stream.

What has happened this last week is what happens when political leaders, academics, media, bloggers, and ordinary people lose control of their emotions and let their worst instincts lead them astray into saying and doing things that should never have been said or done. Not just for a few days or months, but for years, and decades building up on both sides of the political aisle. People like Mr. Trump, unfortunately, are not a disease that we will soon be cured of, but rather one of the latest symptoms of the disease. Whatever their political opinions, our supposed political opponents and enemies are fellow Americans. They are our brothers and sisters in the noblest political experiment in the history of the world. If they were our neighbors, and we didn’t have a pandemic, we would likely be talking with them over the fence and inviting them to dinner or even supporting them with chores and dinners when they were ill. You probably would like them even though you might continue to disagree with them politically. None deserve hate filled speech. None deserve half-truths, lies, and outright libels. They deserve respect, empathy, and a fair hearing on their concerns.

I will point out that when people exaggerate to make a point, they are lying. Period. An exaggeration can never be the truth as it moves beyond the core of the truth. Unfortunately, there will always be some, perhaps many, who take exaggerations literally, which eventually leads to consequences like what we have observed this week. The truth is that there is always some election fraud. I suppose it is inevitable. But there is no credible evidence of widespread fraud that would change the result of the presidential election. The exaggeration of widespread systemic fraud has proven lethal to some this week. Recently, when a friend of ours said that President-elect Biden was evil, my wife pushed back. Our friend paused, thought, and then said simply that she did not trust Mr. Biden’s policies. The first statement was not fair, the second was. Unlike love, which is a gift from one person to another, trust is something that is earned. Hopefully, Mr. Biden will be able to earn the trust of his detractors, though that remains to be seen, and will depend in large part on how he treats them. Hopefully, our friend will keep her heart and mind open.

Exaggerations come in many forms. The worst perhaps is labeling. For years I have been emotionally unable to watch the news. For weeks I have been telling my wife that the reason I refuse to watch the news is because of adjectives. Yes, adjectives – a part of speech. More precisely, adjectives that are used to describe people or their ideas. Calling one with whom you disagree an extremist is a cue to yourself and others to stop listening to them. To call a person a bigot or a racist is also a cue to yourself and others to stop listening to them. And it is always a conversation ender. Calling someone a communist or socialist has the same effect. A person so labeled knows he or she will never be given a fair hearing. A wedge is driven between us with the words we choose to use. The presence of the wedge causes people to express themselves ever more wildly while everyone retreats to their respective comfort zones and silos and listens to what they are comfortable hearing. Everyone, left of center or right of center, needs and deserves better than labeling of that kind even if we suspect it might be true. The labeling is too explosive and in almost every case is a gross exaggeration. We have far too many voices in this country who will not allow a fair hearing for others, and they stand on either side of the political aisle. And after the events of this last week those voices have lost all credibility and no longer deserve to form opinion or lead.

Anyone in media who pretends to shape opinion, anyone in politics who pretends to lead any part of this great people needs to give everyone their respect and empathy. And a fair hearing on their thoughts and concerns. A few years ago, a litigant verbally exploded in a mediation proceeding I presided over and angrily expressed his feelings of contempt, disdain, and fury toward the other party in such a way that I was forced to end the mediation and send the case on to hearings. There was no point in continuing in the poisoned atmosphere we had. He proudly told me afterward that as long as he told the truth he could say it any way he liked. He was wrong, of course. I informed him that a brutal truth is always more about brutality than it is about truth. What he had said was not said to inform or persuade but to harm. We need to stop harming in our speech at every level of our society - and it needs to start at the top. Now!

This country, as a whole, needs to sober up, get through its self-inflicted binge of verbal abuse and brutality, and get back to work – with one another. We can start by minding our adjectives.

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Nicholas Gruen's avatar

Thanks Noah

Views of what's causing this need not deny its reality. I'm always surprised how little attention is given to the structure of electoral politics – baking competition into the logic of democratic representation right from the ground up. The beauty of taking this seriously as an idea is that it gives us a hack that could be introduced into electoral politics as a check and balance which, in my experience calms things immensely. I wrote this up <a href="https://quillette.com/2019/02/16/polarisation-and-the-case-for-citizens-juries/">here</a>

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